TV Series: Ally McBeal S1_06 The promise

The Gut:

Ally saved porkey attoney Harry when he had a heart stroke. His financee Angela came to thank Ally, she is a fatso too. They are going to marry on Friday. Unexpected, Harry told Ally he had a special feeling about her which he had never had with Angela. He said he loves Angela very much, she would be a great mother, "but it's like love out of appreciation, and maybe convenience". She's never made his heart bounce. He asked Ally: "Is it wrong for a person to marry with another person not because she is the one but because she is the only?"

Review:

The episode subtly put the thing to a extreme situation, you may laugh at the fat Harry: what do you expect? you are lucky already that there is a girl who is willing to marry with you? what heart bounch? don't dream, marry with the one you can marry with, facing the reality ... but stop, what's the reality? Fat? Ugly? What about the heart? Many of us claim that we are looking for someone who is close to our hearts, but what's the standard when we judge if he/she can be close to our heart? Are we actually misled by many "realities" in the process of filtering candidates who can be the one?

A friend of mine happened to discuss about marriage with me after I saw this episode. She said, in marriage, you need other things more than ethusiasm. Marriage is the balance of the reality and enthusiasm. Basically she is right. But through our discussion, I suddenly realize a thing that most people regard enthusiasm or passion as the contradictory of the reality, subconsciously or instinctly. Without doubt, everybody yearns for passion, but usually people won't get married for passion. When the things come to the marriage, they said: reality. What the hell does that reality mean? Won't dream come true if you dare to chase it? Why do people always yield to the alleged "reality" before they even give a try for their dream?